Sunday, March 22, 2009

Using Your Voice for a CHANGE

There is a saying, "If you have the words, you do not understand. If you understand, there are no words."

That describes yesterday's workshop for former and current foster care participants at ASU.

Friday, March 20, 2009

Understanding YOU

I was talking to a girlfriend the other day, and she was lamenting about how, at 42, she has not found the "perfect" mate.

Wow...what a tall order....to find someone "perfect." And what pressure that puts on oneself. For if I expect my mate to be perfect, I must have to be.

One of the things that makes a relationship truly work is ACCEPTANCE. Yes, you need to know what your values, needs and wants are in order to attract a compatible partner. But to expect that your partner fits ALL of your values, needs and wants is unrealistic.

If you run through potential mates like you change your hair style, you will never get to the real issue: YOU. The only way you can understand YOU is to be with another imperfect person. Because when you are without a partner, you don't need to reflect...and then....of course you are perfect.

And alone.

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

New Blog

Hi there... I've started writing a new blog regarding a project I've started. Follow or jump in at:

http://parisgardenbox.blogspot.com

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Growth and Happiness

While I shopping for herbs at Home Depot yesterday, I noticed how "happy" people seemed to be. Strangers were smiling at others and stopping to chat about their gardens they were filling with flowers, vegetables and herbs.

Given how gloomy everyone is about the state of the economy and frightened about the future, I was amazed at the chasm between how depressed we are and how upbeat people were behaving in the garden department.

The answer to this puzzle is quite simple. Humans, by nature, are productive beings. We need to be productive and grow. Growth is a need, not a want. We need to grow plants and herbs. We need to grow our families. We need to grow in our professions or avocations.

We need to GROW to be effortlessly happy.