I just learned of a 24-year old woman that gave a speech in a college course. During the Q & A portion, she divulged that she was placed in foster care at the age of 4. So often we hide our pasts for fear of judgement (the world can be intensely cruel).
Also, on some level, we internalize what happened to us, thinking that somehow what happened to us was our fault.
For example, I often wonder if I was literally--physically and emotionally--abandoned because of my severe deformities.
We think that we somehow deserved this shit.
And, of course, we did not. So there.